This episode is personal, but I’m sharing it because I know I’m not the only one who’s felt this. If you ever looked around and thought maybe this space wasn’t built for the way I do things, I hope this makes you feel seen and maybe even a little more confident in your own lane. I’ve been marketing for over a decade now as a web strategist, designer, and eternal nerd for sites, strategy, storytelling, and systems.
Why I Struggled to Show Up Online Even With 10+ Years of Marketing Experience
I’ve worked with businesses across the board, from nonprofits that were driven by heart to million-dollar operations trying to scale. I’ve built campaigns and websites for travel and tourism brands, government initiatives, and even septic companies.
Let’s be real, every business deserves solid marketing, even when it’s not the sexiest industry. Right now I lead web and automation at Reach. I’ve helped over a hundred businesses launch or revamp their websites, and I’ve been doing this long before it was cool. Since I was a curious little nena building my first site on Homestead at seven years old – it was a mess of clashing colors and clunky layouts, but I was hooked.
Hooked on the way tech and creativity could intersect. Hooked on the human psychology behind every scroll, click, and interaction. I got my degree in advertising and public relations from the University of Central Florida. First-gen graduate – hashtag charge on. I went on to get certified as a life coach.
Graduated from leadership programs and poured over literally thousands of hours of training, podcasts, case studies, not because I had to, but because I wanted to know more. I love this work, but when it came to showing up online for myself, for my own personal brand, I froze.
The fear wasn’t about my skills. I knew I had experience. I knew I had receipts. I could audit a website in my sleep. But still, I found myself thinking: what if no one wants my version of marketing? What if I’m not flashy enough? What if I don’t look like the kind of person who sells this?
And let’s be real, I didn’t. I wasn’t promising six figures in six weeks. I wasn’t taking laptop selfies on a beach in Tulum. I didn’t have a perfectly curated feed with aesthetic carousels and feel-good fluff. And that created this weird gap, a disconnect between my career and my confidence. I had so much to say, but I kept holding back.
I’d overthink captions, question every offer, compare myself to creators who had nothing to do with my lane. It was like being in a room full of noise and wondering if there was any space for something quieter, something deeper to be heard. And the wildest part? The more I tried to match what I saw, the less it felt like me.
So, if you’ve ever felt like you had something valuable to share but kept overthinking it because it didn’t look like what everyone else was doing, I see you.
Marketing Isn’t a Lifestyle, It’s a Skill
When I started paying closer attention to the online marketing space, I realized why I felt so disconnected.
It wasn’t just imposter syndrome, it was dissonance. Marketing was being sold like a lifestyle, not a skill. I’d scroll through people’s marketing tips posts, and sometimes the strategy was there, buried in a carousel or the caption, but then the cover photo would be a shot of them casually posing with a bike.
And I’d just sit there like, what does a bike have to do with the strategy?
It wasn’t that the content was always empty. It just didn’t connect. It felt like the focus was more on the vibe than the value. And I remember thinking: are we selling marketing or a mood board?
The more I looked around, the more I realized that a lot of what was being sold was just the same recycled playbooks. I saw digital marketing courses being resold with reseller rights. Same frameworks. Same scripts. Same graphics. Different logos slapped on top. And that’s not strategy, that’s just templated hustle culture.
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But I get why people fall into it. When you’re burned out, underpaid, or just trying to figure out how to build something for yourself, those plug-and-play offers look like the shortcuts to freedom.
And sometimes, even if they’re not sustainable, they’re what sparked the shift. I’ve seen people start with those templates and later find their way into work that’s actually aligned.
Still, it made me wonder if people cared about the kind of marketing I loved, the strategic, nuanced kind, in a space that rewards shortcuts.
And then there was this pattern I couldn’t ignore. People were taking one course or program and immediately turning around to teach it. Coaching other coaches. Selling business strategy without ever running a business.
And listen, I get how it happens. Sometimes you find something that changes your life and you wanna share it. Sometimes you’re sold the idea that teaching is the fastest path to freedom.
But what I realized is that’s not the kind of foundation I wanted to build from. I didn’t wanna repeat what I was taught. I wanted to share what I learned, from the late nights in agency life, from the clients whose websites I helped untangle, from the messy, unsexy parts of marketing that no one was putting on a Canva slide.
It was in those moments, deep in the backend chaos, that I started questioning the advice we were all taught to follow. Not that all of it was wrong, but some of it needed a rewrite.
I’m not against urgency. Some of it makes sense. Sometimes a deadline helps people commit. Sometimes a limited offer is actually limited. But there’s a difference between urgency with intention and fake scarcity just for conversion’s sake.
Like seeing “only three spots left” on an evergreen course that’s clearly been open for years. That’s not strategy, that’s pressure wrapped in marketing language.
I want people to feel empowered to buy, not manipulated into it.
Feeling Invisible Online? You’re Not Alone
I tried to play the game too. I spent way too much time trying to curate the perfect feed. Maybe you have too. Spending way too much time trying to strike the right tone, picking the right colors, rewriting captions a dozen times, wondering if you had to perform a certain way to be taken seriously.
But the more I did that, the more disconnected I felt. From the work and from myself.
And honestly, as a Latina in this space, it felt even more isolating. I didn’t grow up seeing people who looked like me in rooms like this. I didn’t have a Pinterest-perfect home office or the confidence to pitch myself as an expert right out the gate.
I was taught to show up prepared, qualified, and grateful, not loud, flashy, or self-promoting. And while I love where I come from la cultura, the hustle, the heart behind everything we do, I didn’t always see that reflected in the online business space.
So I questioned myself. Should I tone it down? Should I code-switch more? Do I need to lead with fluff so people feel more comfortable?
And then I saw people going viral off of generalizations while I was sitting on strategy that had actually worked for dozens of businesses.
It made me feel invisible.
And maybe you’ve felt that way too, like the deeper stuff gets overlooked while the surface-level advice goes viral.
You know the feeling. The late-night scroll where you just start second-guessing everything. I was there.
There was a point, probably around 11 PM, post-burnout scroll spiral, where I legit Googled “how to make a personal brand aesthetic” and “how to pick the perfect niche.” I was sitting there like, maybe if I just pick the right color palette or find one specific content bucket, then I’ll be legit. Then people will get it.
And as soon as I hit enter, I laughed at myself. Because deep down, I knew that wasn’t the answer.
Quiet Wins Count: The Value of “Non-Aesthetic” Work
The answer wasn’t beige tones and Canva templates. It wasn’t niching down so far I had to leave parts of myself behind.
The answer was trust. Trust in the people I wanted to reach. Trust in the value of real strategy not just trendy reels. Trust that there’s a place for people like me in this space, even if we don’t look or sell like the mainstream blueprint. And trust in myself because at the end of the day, no aesthetic can speak louder than experience, clarity, and heart.
Over time I’ve learned this, just because something doesn’t trend doesn’t mean it doesn’t work. Just because something’s not aesthetic doesn’t mean it’s not effective. And just because you don’t like to do it like them doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
And then there’s this pressure to turn every personal moment into a post. I’ve seen people share things before they’ve even had time to process them, not because they wanted to, but because they felt like they had to.
I felt that pressure too.
But for me, vulnerability isn’t content. It’s connection.
I’ve learned that I get to choose when and how I share, not as a tactic, but as a reflection of what’s real for me. And I’ve learned that not everything has to be public to be powerful.
Some things are allowed to stay sacred. And that doesn’t make me less open. It makes me more whole.
So while all of that made me second guess myself, the truth is, I’ve been in the trenches. I’ve done the work. And it’s time I start talking about it.
I think what finally brought me back to myself was remembering I’ve been doing the work. It just didn’t always look like what the algorithm rewards.
I worked on websites and digital strategies for over a hundred businesses, like I mentioned and not just in one niche. I’ve had my hands in everything from travel and wellness to education and government projects. I’ve worked with nonprofits running on heart and hustle, and I’ve worked on million-dollar businesses refining their digital presence, making sure their website matched the level they were operating at.
I’ve seen what happens behind the scenes when a business isn’t set up sustainably, and I’ve helped teams build systems that actually support their growth. I’ve sat in meetings untangling confusing website flows, rewriting copy that wasn’t connecting, and helping teams get clear on what they were saying and who they were saying it to.
A lot of it wasn’t flashy. There weren’t launch parties or viral moments. But the impact? It was real.
The algorithm doesn’t get to decide your value. The work you do, the strategy, the care, the clarity, it matters, even when no one’s clapping for it in public.
So maybe you’ve had those quiet wins too, the kind that don’t show up in your feed but make a real impact. This is your reminder: that work counts. And for a long time, I didn’t count that because it wasn’t aesthetic. Because I wasn’t posting about it. Because I thought if I wasn’t selling that kind of marketing, the flashy kind, no one would care. But here’s what I’ve also learned. The best marketing doesn’t always come with a highlight reel.
Sometimes it looks like giving someone their time back. Or helping a founder get unstuck after months of second-guessing everything they wrote. Or simplifying a system so they can finally breathe and trust their site is working even when they’re not.
Sometimes it looks like walking someone through the basics of web design and realizing, wait, this isn’t common knowledge?
That moment shifted everything for me. I had been so used to building and fixing things for other people that I forgot how much I knew and how valuable it is to just help someone understand.
If you’ve ever downplayed something that feels easy to you just because it’s second nature, don’t forget, that’s your magic. What feels simple to you might be exactly what someone else needs help understanding.
I’ve had multiple clients call me their favorite and it wasn’t because I was doing the most. It was because I made things feel manageable. I tried to explain things clearly. I cared.
That’s how I was raised to look out for people, to figure things out, to do good work and mean it.
I’ve been doing this work for a long time, and turns out I didn’t need to change how I worked, I just needed to stop hiding it.
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Somewhere along the way I realized I didn’t want to build things that only worked when I was actively promoting them. I didn’t want to constantly feel behind on content or like I had to show up every day just to be seen. Sustainability for me means building systems that keep working even when I’m not. Things like SEO that take time to set up but keep driving traffic years later. Automations that save you hours without making your business feel robotic. Strategy that gives you clarity so you’re not reinventing the wheel every time you sit down to write.
I’ve seen it work. I’ve had clients come back later and tell me their content is still bringing them leads. And I’ve felt the difference in my own work too, the relief that comes from knowing that not everything is urgent. Not everything is temporary.
As for integrity? I keep it simple. I’m not here to overpromise. I’m not going to guarantee that a system or strategy will change your business overnight. Because all of it, the content, the offers, the tech, it’s all a test. And I’d rather be honest about that than sell you something that sounds good but doesn’t hold up.
That’s what I’ve learned. Good marketing isn’t just about getting attention. It’s about building something you can actually sustain, something that works with you, not against you. I used to think the reason I couldn’t show up like other marketers was because something was wrong with me. Like I wasn’t confident enough or clear enough or niche enough. But the more I reflected on it, the more I realized, it wasn’t a lack of clarity. It was too much of it.
Why ‘It Depends’ Is a Strategic Answer
I saw the nuance. The what-ifs. The edge cases. The deeper layers. The stuff people weren’t saying out loud. It felt like everyone else was so sure of themselves, and I was still turning over every idea, wondering if I was just overthinking it. Sometimes I’d write something and then delete it, thinking, well, it’s not that simple, so maybe I shouldn’t say it at all. But I’ve always seen things from multiple angles. It’s about growing up in between worlds, navigating different spaces, learning to read the room. I was taught to look deeper, to ask questions, to pay attention even when no one else was.
And that nuance? That’s what makes me good at this. It’s what helps me build systems that actually work. It’s why I can zoom out to see the big picture and still catch the small details that make it all click. I don’t need to pretend there’s one right way. I know better. And I’ve learned that “it depends” isn’t a cop-out, it’s the beginning of a real conversation.
That’s why I say “so… it depends.” Not because I don’t know, but because I do. That’s the kind of work I want to be known for. Not for being perfect. Not for playing the game. But for showing up with context, care, and strategy, rooted in real life.
If you ever felt like you were too thoughtful, too careful, too uncertain to make it in marketing? Same. If you ever felt behind because you weren’t ready to show up until everything was perfect? Same. And if you ever looked around and thought, is there even room for the way I do things? I’ve been there too. But here’s what I know now.
You can be a marketer and still hate what marketing has become. You can care about nuance and still be clear. You don’t need to turn your work into a performance. You can build slow and still go far. You don’t need fake confidence. You don’t need to sell the dream. You just need to trust that the way you do things has value, even if it doesn’t go viral. You’re not late. You’re not too quiet. You’re not doing it wrong. You’re building with intention, so you’re not behind.
You’ve just been building with more intention than the internet knows how to measure.
And there’s space for that here. I’m building it that way too and I’m glad you’re here. If this resonated, my DMs are always open. I’d love to hear how you’re building with intention too. Hasta la próxima.